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Tuesday, October 27, 2009

just some stuff to share with all of you when i was at the dementia day care

12 things to note when dealing with a dementia patient

1. Be patient with me
My brain disease is beyong my control

2. Accept me the way I am
I still have something to offer you

3. Talk with and listen to me
I can't always answer but i do understand the tone of your voice and your interest. Because I can't remember does not mean i'm dumb.

4. Consider my feelings
I am sensitive to shame, embarrassment , to failure and uncertainity. Don't ignore me.

5. You can touch me
I'm not contagious

6. Don't hurry me
Each day I struggle to keep up and understand

7. Treat me with diginity
I'm not less of a person because I have dementia. I would do the same if our positions were reversed.

8. Be kind to me
Your kindness to me may be the highlight of my day.

9. Be with me
Pary for me. Your presence shows true compression

10. Remember my past
Remind me of my previous work, contributions and successes.

11. Remember my present
Let me do what I can do. Break down activities into steps I can handle. I can respond to encouragement

12. Remember my future
I need hope for tomorrow and joy. And serenity. Love me and your gift of love will be a blessing of light on all our lives.

and tears started to fall.

11:12 AM

this scorpio has very split personality if anyone has realised. She likes super cute stuff e.g. hello kitty, pooh and a very good example, this blog skin. On the other hand, she hates to dress cutely. she uses vulgarities like occasionally but never uses it when parents are home ; loves dressing up when the occasion comes but hates the heels/dresses/skirts; loves making friends but hates socialising; plays the piano but prefers soft rock music in her mp3; loves the customer service envt but doesn't want it as her career; materialistic to a certain extent but hates the cliched designer brands; loves hanging out with friends but sometimes prefers and enjoys the solitude when alone; not really interested in finding a boyfriend but hoping to find a suitable and dependable husband; hates the cliched "wooing" but loves the sweetness in idol dramas; can get emotional at times but doesn't like too much attention and concern; can be superly active but is known to be the rain on people's parade; and the list could go on. if she doesn't talk to you, pls don't think she's unfriendly; she just doesn't want put on a pretence of knowing you well. All in all, hopefully you wouldn't hate her if you know her well enough. and if you hate her, hopefully its because you don't know her well enough.